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Dear Friends I Left Behind,

This is my 10th letter in the 30 day letter challenge. This is meant for the person I don’t talk to as much as I’d like. The sad fact is that I moved over 3 months ago and I’ve been a piss-poor communicator ever since. So, to those of you I left back up North, this one’s for you.

Frances ~ cub scouts has started and I’m already registering Lucas for basketball season. It feels strange to do these things knowing that you won’t be there at meetings or sitting on the sidelines with me while we cheer our boys on. I miss so many things about you—your calm, quiet way; your encouraging smile; the ease of our conversations; your honesty in asking questions about things you genuinely don’t understand; your acceptance of me; your patience with the boys and your willingness to take Lucas to give me a break every once in a while; and, most of all, your unfailing generosity. I wish I knew more about what was happening in your life right now. I know you are going through probably the hardest time, and that makes me feel that much worse that I haven’t kept up with you as I should. Please know that you are always on my mind and in my prayers and we need to just make a date to sit down and talk on the phone one evening soon.

A and Jenn~ I am heartily sorry that I never allowed myself to truly get to know you until Li came back into my life. The last 6 months I spent living next door to you was truly a pleasure. You two are one of the most loving couples I have ever met and you are a testament to what it means to find your soul mate. I miss the laughter, but I don’t miss playing board games with Jenn (truthfully? Jenn you are downright scary when you aren’t winning!). I miss singing karaoke and eating good food and hanging out in that bumpy, broken down driveway, and yeah…I just miss your faces every day. You really need to get your butts down here for a visit.

Alicia ~ it is so sad that we were just getting to know each other when I left. I was drawn to you immediately—in your pink t-shirt and black tutu and tights. You have a look that just screamed “kinship” to me. And it’s true, once we started talking, we never shut up! We play telephone tag and leave lots of notes to each other on Facebook, but it isn’t the same as having you hanging out in my living room watching a movie with me or walking the streets of Boston after a pole dancing exhibition. I love that you are always game to try anything. I wish I had a friend like that here, someone who’ll call me up at a moment’s notice to do something completely crazy and unexpected. Someone who is easy to be with and always brightens my day. You are a shining light, my dear, a shining light.

Char ~ I’m becoming a heifer without you. Seriously, although I truly miss SDAF and your Zumba classes, what I miss most is hanging out with you afterward and just talking life. From the mundane to the philosophical, we never ran out of things to talk about. You are such an inspiration to me. You live your life genuinely. You work hard and you still make time for your husband, your kids, and your friends. I know it is tiring, but you make it seem so effortless. I wish that I could get a pep talk from you every day so that I could stay on track—my own personal cheerleader. Your positivity makes every day just a little easier. Know that I value you, I miss you, and I love you. I’m so glad to call you friend.

Katherine ~ You completely rock. What can I say except that I miss my partner in crime? I could always count on you to bring a smile to my face and make me laugh until I thought I’d pee my pants. I was so glad to get to spend some time with you before I left and I wish we’d had more opportunities to do things together while I was there. You are a beautiful, talented woman, and a dedicated wife and mother. You inspire me. Keep on dancin’, darlin’.

Maria~we started out on a rocky path when you moved in downstairs. Remember how I used to bitch about the noise level until you read me the riot act? Doing the bob and weave with your head, your finger in my face…I think I earned your respect when I refused to back down! *smile* I got used to the noise, and even came to welcome it, because I knew I wasn’t alone in the house. I knew you always had my back. You are loyal to a fault and generous beyond measure. I miss the sounds of laughter emanating from the back yard and the hours of conversation at my kitchen table. I don’t know where you are right now or how you are doing and I hope and pray that you and your family are safe and happy.

Christine, you make motherhood look like the easiest job in the world–I so wish I had your patience and your energy! Lisa, you keep fighting the good fight. You are such a gorgeous woman with so much life left to live. Should I ever, ever have to deal with even an iota of what you’ve gone through, I shall look to you as my inspiration to persevere. Kelly, I don’t know what to say sweetheart—just thinking about missing you brings tears to my eyes. We had so many good times and you are such a beautiful soul. To all of the other mothers of Lucas’ friends from school and scouts, thank you for being there time and again. You all became my support system when I found myself with none and I cherish each and every one of you. I wish I could call you all out by name, and I hope to God I haven’t missed anyone. Please know that while I may be 900 miles away, I think of you all often and miss each and every one of you.

In love and friendship,